Ok, today’s post convicts me to my core! Ouch. My dear friend, Kimberly Henderson, is joining us today and I am thankful for the wisdom and honesty of her post. I highly encourage you to check out her blog, for the following is just a taste of Kim’s amazing heart…
We all know it happens – magazine covers get airbrushed, make-up ads get retouched, unattainable computer-generated beauty ends up plastered on billboards across America. Seeing before and after photos of already beautiful women altered to the extreme leaves us shocked and angry. “How dare the media set up standards we cannot even hope to attain?”
We call the media out on their superficial beauty enhancements, but are we perhaps guilty of a little airbrushing ourselves? Spiritual airbrushing that is. Take off a little sin here. Cover up some indiscretions there. Whiten that “I’ve got the joy of the Lord” smile to cover up what is really going on inside and…ta-dah…perfect Christian. Because that is what we are supposed to be, right? Perfect?
For years I bought into that lie. The lie stating that in order to be a good Christian, a good advertisement for Jesus, I need to have it all together. “Hi, I’m Kimberly, and I have no struggles or problems. Life is just peachy and if you love Jesus and do everything just like me you will have a perfect life, too.”
I’m sorry, but what a dangerous and unattainable standard for us to present to others. No one has it all together in this life. I know I sure don’t!
But what I do have is Someone who holds me together. I have a Savior who died for me before I could ever even try to do anything good or right. I have the promise that He will never leave me or forsake me, no matter how many times I blow it. And I have His guarantee that He will complete the good work He began in me.
The truth is – I am a mess. A mess desperately in need of a Messiah. And that’s okay. He has more than enough love and hope and strength and grace for this mess of a girl. Has He changed me? Without a doubt. Am I a finished product? Have mercy, no. So why try to cover that fact up?
I am discovering the more open and honest I am about my own failings and struggles, the more women I find who can relate. Women who are then able to confess that they don’t have it all together either. And in those moments of honesty something beautiful can happen – authentic relationship.
Vulnerability opens the door for us to pray for one another, to speak life over one another, and to stir up hope in one another. Instead of pretending we have it all together while floundering in private, we get to take off the masks, be ourselves, and encourage one another in the Lord.
Does that mean we go around sharing all of our dirty laundry with anyone who will listen? Of course not. But we can stop pretending. We don’t need anyone to think we are perfect – we just need to point others to the One who is.
“But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellence of the power may be of God and not of us.” ~
2 Corinthians 4:7
Learning to Live Airbrush Free,
Kimberly Henderson is a writer who lives in the Upstate of SC with her handsome husband, three giggly girls, and one seriously spoiled Schnauzer. You can find this recovering perfectionist pressing through the toughest of days with humor, honesty, and the Word of God at her blog, www.aplantingofthelord.com.