I have a confession to make, no make that two confessions.
When I was little, I wanted to be Wonder Woman. I wanted to marry the cartoon character Mighty Mouse because he flew around and saved all the little girl mice. I was into made up superheroes back then.
I also want to be a real superhero to those who know and love me. I have a vision of what “she” looks like in my mind. She can leap over and accomplish all her household duties in a single bound. She is the perfect wife and mother. Her holiness awes those in her suburb and around the world…
What follows is my reality.
The first time I invited Chad over to watch a movie, I burnt our microwave popcorn. Seriously? Seriously. My desire to show him that I was a superhero in the kitchen crashed and burned (literally).
My latest attempt at making a homemade grandparents day gift turned out like this:
Yep, major mama fail!
Then there are the moments of mama guilt I experience from doing things I swore I would never do. Things like:
- hooking my child onto a cute stuffed animal leash. Guilty. I used to think a parent was inhumane for doing this. Then I gave birth to an active, curious, and FAST little man. On came the monkey leash…
- feeding them anything from a fast food restaurant. I am not even going to try and explain this…
- installing portable DVD players in our car. We drive a lot. They are wonderful. This is all I am going to say…
- allow my child to throw a tantrum in public or on an airplane. Yeah… you can read more about that here. Allow a child to throw a tantrum? Newsflash: they never ask for permission…
While pregnant, I memorized books written by “experts.” I took prenatal vitamins and did not eat Feta Cheese. I expected to have all aspects of mothering down and under control before the birth of our second child.
Uh huh. Oh mercy… make that a whole lot of uh huhs.
Our oldest child turns 5 in December. The only “thing” I understand, is that I do not have anything under control! My attempts at heroism fail over and over again.
We moms form a vision of what we should be in our heads. “She” probably looks a lot like the made up superhero, Wonder Woman. However, at some point, we moms think that there is not a lot of “wonder” anything left in us! We feel overwhelmed. We mess up and lose our temper. We take it personally if our child has a bad day at preschool (Ahem). We burn dinner, shrink something in the dryer, or assume that we have an extra outfit for the baby in the car- when the only onesie in the vehicle has a ginormous poop splatter up the back of it. (Ahem)
When mistakes and messes happen, it is easy to feel like a failure. But fellow mom, there is hope…
On Thursday, author Jenny Lee Sulpizio, is stopping by One Degree to share a portion of her new book, Confessions of a Wonder Woman Wannabe. You will NOT want to miss the message she has for us. (HINT: mom jeans)
I recently finished reading through my copy of this book. It has given my frazzled and weary momma’s heart hope and direction. The stories that Jenny shares from her own experiences are encouraging and made me laugh out loud.
The chapters are easy to read and are full of practical advice (and super cool charts/schedules) that enable mommas everywhere to restore order and peace to their minds, homes, and beloved minivans. Jenny’s wisdom has also given me a fresh perspective on controlling my mama mood swings, meal planning, and on how I can use the bathroom in peace.
In her own words, Jenny says:
“For me… modern-day motherhood has become this uncomfortable breeding ground for multitasking madness, overwhelming struggles, and unhealthy competition… which begs all of us moms to truthfully answer the real question here: Who wouldn’t want to be perfect? Who wouldn’t want to be Wonder Woman?… Even though we many not possess a lasso of truth or have bullet-proof wrist bands in our arsenal, moms like us are equipped with some pretty awesome superpowers of our own… and it’s about time we start realizing it.” (page 18)
Mommas- you need to read this book. The super cool news is that you can enter to win a copy by leaving a comment below! Easy peasy? I will announce the winner at the end of Thursday’s blog post. I would love to know your thoughts about one of the following questions:
1) What drives a momma’s need for perfection?
2) What superpower should all mommas possess and why?
3) What’s been the biggest surprise about motherhood or challenge in motherhood you have encountered so far?
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